Marc and Amy Vachon are co-authors of 'Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents' and founders of www.equallysharedparenting.com, the first dedicated resource for egalitarian parenting from the perspective of both genders. Their work has been covered by the New York Times, Boston Globe, Huffington Post, Guardian (UK), Fitness Magazine, TODAY Show, Parenting magazine, Babble, USA Today and other media. They have written their personal story of equally shared parenting in 'One Big Happy Family,' an anthology by Rebecca Walker. Amy is a clinical pharmacist in a management role, and Marc is an information technology specialist. They live in Massachusetts with their two children.
Marc and Amy Vachon
Marc and Amy Vachon are co-authors of 'Equally Shared Parenting: Rewriting the Rules for a New Generation of Parents' and founders of www.equallysharedparenting.com, the first dedicated resource for egalitarian parenting from the perspective of both gende
Blog Post List
May 11, 2010
"A balanced life is often ridiculed as impossible--a goal that many have abandoned because it makes us mere mortals feel bad when we can't achieve it." This is the opening line from chapter 3 in our book, Equally Shared Parenting . It is an acknowledgement to the common media perspective that the pursuit of balance is a joke. With all the job pressures, kids activities, and otherwise hectic pace of life these days who can afford the luxury of pursuing balance? But wait a minute. What other ideals should we toss aside just because they aren't easy to attain: equality, peace, love? We’re not...
February 22, 2010
There has been a lot of buzz lately about the latest Pew Research Center results on men, women, and earnings. The big news is that the number of heterosexual couples in which the woman outearns the man has leapt from a mere 4% in 1970 to 22% in 2007. Historically, this is big news. Sure, a full 78% of these households still boast a male breadwinner with a bigger paycheck, but a sea change seems to be upon us. The real impact of this change is in our definition of what it means to be a man. Forever, it seems, men's identities and worth have been tied up in their ability to provide for their...
February 16, 2010
How many times have you read about, or listened to, complaints that women do more around the house? In blogs and news pieces and books, in our neighborhoods and playdate circles, at work and at the park, moms are pissed about, or hopelessly resigned to, their unfair burdens. Statistics are bantered about and analyzed in minute detail: Women spend X hours doing chores compared to men, Y hours caring for the kids compared to men, Z hours managing a crushing to-do list and wheedling their spouses into 'helping' them with all of it. Men respond, either by turning a deaf ear, claiming they...
May 22, 2009
Very interesting column in the Wall Street Journal this week by work/family journalist, Sue Shellenbarger. It profiles a few families that have cut back on outside childcare to save money in tough economic times, and have put a kind of equally shared parenting in place. I say 'a kind of ESP' because these families have got the equality piece right, but they've not quite embraced the other foundational goal of this lifestyle: balance. The article starts out with an ominous tone - and the scary title of Extreme Child-Care Maneuvers - as if to warn readers that the economy was forcing couples...
June 18, 2008
As some of you may know, we were profiled in this past Sunday’s New York Times Magazine in a piece by Lisa Belkin entitled When Mom and Dad Share It All .
April 16, 2008
This blog entry is written by Amy only. While Marc hung out with our kids, I chose last week to attend a summit meeting offered by a national coalition called the Campaign For A Commercial-Free Childhood (CCFC). I had no idea what I'd be hearing, or whether I'd be spending two precious days of free time on a worthy endeavor.
March 21, 2008
"It is not possession of a womb that now holds women back, but its use." That's a line from a brilliant article published earlier this week in the British magazine New Statesman. As journalist Richard Reeves explains, in Britain the pay gap between men and women is virtually gone, until they become parents.
January 11, 2008
The American public, at least the part consisting of parents, is obsessed with measuring how much housework is done by women versus men. Statistics about men’s increasing involvement at home clog the blogosphere and newspaper columns– followed by discussion of how much MORE women still do. Many women would love to find a way to get more help from their husbands to even the load.
December 13, 2007
Exciting news from the US House of Representatives: a bill has been introduced by Senator Edward Kennedy and Representative Carolyn Maloney that mirrors flexibility laws in place in several European countries.
November 30, 2007
The Organisation for Economic Co-Operation and Development (OECD) has released a new report comparing the policies of 30 countries with respect to work/life balance.
November 14, 2007
On paper, having a husband who does half the housework, changes half the diapers, cooks half the meals, and schedules half the pediatrician appointments (without any reminding) sounds like heaven to most women. In theory, having a wife who brings in half the money and never, ever nags or directs him at home sounds like the perfect dream to most men.
October 22, 2007
The '08 Presidential candidates are beginning to discuss the family-friendly aspects of their platforms. Hillary Clinton, for one, has voiced her support of paid parental leave and expanded FMLA benefits, as well as grants for workplace flexibility leaders and an end to job discrimination for parents. We look forward to learning the details of her work/family proposals and those of her opponents in the coming months.
October 13, 2007
We are very excited about the birth of FamiliesRising.org! But before we tell you exactly why, we’d like to introduce ourselves. We are representatives of a subset of involved dads and moms who practice equally shared parenting. This means that both parents, in an intact family, share equally in breadwinning, housework, childraising and recreation time. No one parent rules the home; no one parent has the primary career. Both parents have deep intimate relationships with their children, and both have equal say in tending their childhoods. And both parents place a high value on time with each other, time to pursue hobbies, time to do what matters most to each individual. Right now, we are working to raise awareness of this lifestyle – its joys and challenges – through our website and blog at www.equallysharedparenting.com . We are looking forward to doing so through FamiliesRising.org as well.