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Give Dad a Break

June 14, 2013
The annual June Father's day shopping binge is at its zenith. Stores are touting the latest gizmos and geegaws, and everybody loves Dad. All except corporate America, that is. Just count the number of companies giving paid leave to men with newborns. While some employers offer time off with pay to new moms (and most don't), not many give dads the same benefit. When they do, it's almost always less time. Only 12 companies on Working Mother magazine's 100 Best list give equal time to dads and moms alike, and for five of those it's a stingy one week. Some of the big tech companies seem to be...
Martha Burk's picture

A Father's Day gift that keeps giving

June 14, 2013
Policies such as family and medical leave programs and earned sick days make it easier for fathers to bear their responsibilities. On this Father's Day, too many fathers have to choose between the family they love and the job they need. That's a choice no one should ever have to make. If we want Father's Day to be more than a Hallmark holiday, we need to become a nation that truly honors fathers — by making sure their workplaces welcome their parenting role. Our social policies must evolve so that our espoused values — that we care about families — catch up to the new reality that women are...
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Family Leave Meant a Strong Start for My Son, My Family and Me

June 14, 2013
Eight years ago, our first son was born. Like many, I found becoming a parent to be an amazing, life-changing experience. I was humbled by the realities of this new responsibility and overwhelmed by the love that I had to give. Nine months of anticipation only partially prepare you for parenthood. Before the birth of your child, you simply do not understand that unconditional connection that you will feel to this new person. With every passing day, you realize how delicate and critical a time it is for your baby’s life —how little milestones are shaping everything to come. For me and my wife...
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Fathers have become unicorns

June 12, 2013
Fatherhood is a lifestyle. Fatherhood should not just something that you get to do after work, on the weekends or when you are allowed to by the courts or the mother. Fathers live for the betterment of the lives of their children. It is very disturbing that we live in a society that has bestowed the title of ‘father’ so haphazardly within our society on generally self-centered men. Self-centered men are daddies. Family-centered men are fathers. The two terms embody two different ideals, actions and mindsets. Yet, in our society, daddies and fathers have become interchangeable. So in a society...
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Fathers on Family Leave: A MomsRising Blog Carnival

June 12, 2013
Father's Day is a great time to reflect on the joys, struggles, challenges and epiphanies that come with fatherhood. I'm honored to introduce this MomsRising.org Blog Carnival that focuses on the early days of fatherhood - Fathers on Family Leave, with revealing stories from dads about their introduction to fatherhood. Like me, there are other fathers for whom the arrival of their children was revelation to the important demands of child care. However, I had the privilege of paid family leave - a privilege that seems to bestowed by chance in this country. Based on data the Bureau of Labor...
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Investing in families pays off

June 12, 2013
The birth of my daughter came just about 1 year after starting a new job in the non-profit sector. I was fortunate in that the organization I work for is run by warm and kind people who appreciate and value the staff. Our staff of seven people were also fairly young on average when I started, and so the arrival of my child would be the first one of anyone on staff at the time. Luckily, the organization had and maintains a clear parental leave policy, a policy that I've found is much better than most similar sized organizations. I was able to spend the first three weeks of my daughter's life...
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FatheResponsibility

June 12, 2013
Four of my favorite people in the world call me Junie (their special name for their grandfather). Granny and I have been married for almost fifty years. We’re grandparents to four delightful grandchildren. I’d like to offer my input from a grandfather’s perspective as to why Father’s Day is such a BIG deal. Father’s Day is a celebration of the love awarded to men who act like fathers, whether they are fathers of birth, father of adoption, foster dads, step-dads, or men who step in to fill that role in a child’s life. I think it all comes down to one word that - if dutifully performed -...
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Family leave and self-employment

June 12, 2013
I just watched my three year old “graduate” from her first year of preschool. It was a cute ceremony, and the room was filled with parents that sat in long rows with their cameras trained on the kids up front. But it's also 11am on a Friday, and that means I was one of the only dads in the room. There were several moms who couldn’t make it, too. Most parents have to do what their jobs demand. But seven years ago my wife and I began to arrange our careers in a way that would let us both be present for the important moments in our (future) kids lives. When we decided to start our photography...
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Real Nurturing Leave

June 12, 2013
When my partner and I were graced with the news that we were expecting our first child, I was in my fifth year of service as an assistant professor in a research university. Tenure reviews are generally scheduled for the sixth year of service. Thus, in the academic profession, this is the crucial time when a scholar is expected to “publish or perish.” Usually connoting lifetime job security and academic freedom, tenure is one of the great blessings a college or university can award a professor. Conversely, however, being denied tenure (and thus losing one's job) can act as a major setback to...
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An Organizing Dad

June 12, 2013
I’m a Dad. Even three years and two kids later, defining myself in that way still seems somewhat surreal. I’m also a Community Organizer. I have been for 13 years... and believe me that’s often very surreal as well. You see, the life of an Organizer isn’t like most. You are seen as a community resource, on call 24-7, traveling to and fro, reacting to the latest news, rallying the tired masses, dealing with setbacks, navigating the highs and lows, so on and so forth. Hmm, wait that’s sort of like being a ... Dad! As I think about this Father’s Day, the fact is that my life as a working,...
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