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Unanticipated rewards

June 12, 2013
Here’s a quiz: see if you can figure out what kind of dad I am. If you ask them, my children may very well tell you I am their “fake daddy”. My children are not biologically related to me, don’t share my last name, and they all don’t even currently live with me. But I can assure you, I’m a real dad when it counts: like at 3am when you’ve had a bad dream, when you skin your knee riding your bike, or when your real parents are having a bit of a problem. Time’s up. Final answer? I am a foster dad. While our family was not created in the traditional way, my wife and I decided that we wanted to...
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Marvin, Tammi, Misha and Daddy

June 12, 2013
When my wife and I adopted Misha Gabrielle, our oldest daughter was a two-week old infant in the late summer of 1998, the last thing we had thought about was my paternity leave. My wife was working at a relatively progressive college, and she was able to take eight weeks off before returning to work as an administrator. It had never occurred to me to ask for such a leave at my own institution—not nearly as progressive—and among a decidedly older generation of colleagues for which men asking for such leaves was unfathomable. As an academic though, I also knew that I had the kind of flexibility...
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Supporting LGBT Workers and Their Families in Times of Need

June 12, 2013
Every day, LGBT Americans face unexpected emergencies or life events requiring their care and attention—a worker comes down with the flu, a child is born, an adoption is finalized, a sick child is sent home from school, an elderly loved one is hospitalized. Many LGBT workers learn at these critical moments that their employers provide little or no time off and fail to recognize their families. This lack of support and recognition can have devastating consequences for LGBT working families. Due to high rates of poverty and health disparities in the LGBT community, LGBT workers urgently need...
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Priorities? America's Family Values

June 12, 2013
The day remains one of the most vibrant memories of my life. After months of preparation and a day at the hospital, our first child was born. Floating on cloud 9, and focused on taking care of what needed to be done in anticipation of her coming home, I quickly turned my attention back to work. It was spring break at my university so those in those first few days I wasn’t pulled in different directions. That would end before she even turned 10 days old. I never thought about taking a break from work. That would be unfair to my students, my colleagues, and to all the deadlines in front of me...
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It Takes Time

June 12, 2013
I woke up with a startle. It was 1:30 AM and my wife was telling me we needed to go. It was time to have the baby. Luckily, our “nesting phase” had kicked in the previous weekend so we were already packed in anticipation of the big day. Luggage full of extra clothes, baby outfits, books, snacks, and electronics were already set up and waiting neatly by the door. We woke up her son, gathered our bags, and rushed out the door in the calmest way possible. We weren’t worried about missing work or not having income to pay the bills. That was taken care of ahead of time. When we arrived at the...
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Odd Man Out. Why isn’t anyone else taking paternity leave?

June 12, 2013
Something strange happens when I wear the baby. I slip into a black carrier, strap the baby in, make sure she’s snug, put a hat over her tiny head, then head out. A woman with a baby on her hip? So common most people wouldn’t notice. But a man, by himself, with a baby on his chest, bobbing and bouncing with every step? Before I might have been invisible to the world. Now people look twice. Tough guys on the corner smirk, sometimes laugh. Ladies behind the donut counter wave. Security guards soften their glare and grin. Pretty women stop to talk. Old men smile. When I wear the baby strangers...
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Working Moms Just Blamed (Again)!?

June 6, 2013
Deep breath. Count to 10. Can't. Believe. He. Really. Said. That. Yesterday at a Washington Post event , Mississippi Governor Phil Bryant (R) said that America is so "mediocre" in educational outcomes because "mom is in the workplace." ... oh REALLY?! There is steam coming out of the ears of moms across America. Governor Bryant deserves a Hall of Shame trophy for blaming moms (moms!) for the failure of our nation's leaders to step up. But before that Hall of Shame of shame is built, the moms of America need an apology from him. The problem in our nation isn't that moms are working, it's that...
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Breastfeeding IS a Civil Right!

June 1, 2013
Being a new mother is not easy and getting breastfeeding off to a good start is a small – no, make that a HUGE miracle! Add the stress of losing your job because you tried to give your baby the best start in life? I can’t even imagine it. Breastfeeding became a protected Civil Right in California last year when Gov. Brown signed AB 2386, which amended our Fair Employment and Housing Act , to include a woman’s breastfeeding status. However, for years women in the US have been at risk of losing their job, because of a series of Federal Cases, in which the old patriarchy selectively sided with...
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Celebrating Fathers Who 'Leave' to Be Home

May 22, 2013
This Father’s Day, we’re pulling back the curtains to reveal a side of father’s work that is rarely shown. We’re highlighting fathers who have or wanted to take time off from work to help their family establish a strong foundation, including a solid start with breastfeeding. After the birth of our first child, those days were colored with our excitement, naivete, and grueling sleep-deprivation - the hazing of new parents. I felt like a zombie after weeks of waking to nurse and burp the baby every 2-3 hours. I was commended all around for breastfeeding our son, but (c) Toshimasa Ishibashi the...
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Why Most Women Can’t “Lean In” Without Stronger Laws

May 14, 2013
Sheryl Sandberg, Facebook’s chief operating officer, has kicked up all sorts of controversy with her argument that career women can be their own worst enemy and should “lean in” more to their jobs and their ambitions. But the biggest, largely unspoken problem is not that she is elitist, or placing blame in the wrong place. It is that most women can’t rely on their work ethic or the good will of their boss to get ahead--- they need stronger legal protections to effectively “lean in.” It’s a vast, systemic issue. Women’s legal rights – at the moment of hiring, when they receive their paycheck,...
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