Comments on: The Father Absence Crisis and Why Men Matter http://www.momsrising.org/blog/the-father-absence-crisis-and-why-men-matter/ Where Moms and the people who love them fight for a better America Thu, 09 Feb 2012 19:18:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Greg Bishop http://www.momsrising.org/blog/the-father-absence-crisis-and-why-men-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-22638 Greg Bishop Sat, 12 Dec 2009 17:08:26 +0000 http://www.momsrising.org/blog/?p=3454#comment-22638 Sharon, Your post was timely as we are launching our New Moms Hearts & Minds Project in January. For 20 years our Daddy Boot Camp has oriented dads-to-be on how to support new moms, and if new moms knew how to support their mates, moms, dads and babies would all benefit. Our top 10 list of what moms-to-be need to know about new dads includes: 1.A new mom has a huge array of information and support, including her mate, friends, family, the healthcare system, entire media and retail sectors, etc. A new dad has a new mom. 7.It’s not about sex, it’s about love. New moms naturally and dramatically shift their energy, attention, intimacy and love from dad to their baby. If mom is not happy with dad, and a new baby generates conflict, the loss in your relationship is more dramatic. Even if you don’t feel like sex, he still needs to feel the love. The payoff for new moms is more balance in their new lives, a better dad for "her" baby, smarter kids (there is no better baby brain development toy than dad), and a happier relationship with her mate. Sharon, Your post was timely as we are launching our New Moms Hearts & Minds Project in January. For 20 years our Daddy Boot Camp has oriented dads-to-be on how to support new moms, and if new moms knew how to support their mates, moms, dads and babies would all benefit. Our top 10 list of what moms-to-be need to know about new dads includes:

1.A new mom has a huge array of information and support, including her mate, friends, family, the healthcare system, entire media and retail sectors, etc. A new dad has a new mom.

7.It’s not about sex, it’s about love. New moms naturally and dramatically shift their energy, attention, intimacy and love from dad to their baby. If mom is not happy with dad, and a new baby generates conflict, the loss in your relationship is more dramatic. Even if you don’t feel like sex, he still needs to feel the love.

The payoff for new moms is more balance in their new lives, a better dad for “her” baby, smarter kids (there is no better baby brain development toy than dad), and a happier relationship with her mate.

]]> By: Anna http://www.momsrising.org/blog/the-father-absence-crisis-and-why-men-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-22027 Anna Mon, 07 Dec 2009 17:44:04 +0000 http://www.momsrising.org/blog/?p=3454#comment-22027 My husband is currently with our little one on paternity leave, and will start back to work in January on a compressed schedule. While trying to negotiate this, he recieved a lot of static from his job. Finally, they admitted to him that if he was female, no one would even bat an eyelash at his requests. They just don't expect that from a Dad. My husband is currently with our little one on paternity leave, and will start back to work in January on a compressed schedule. While trying to negotiate this, he recieved a lot of static from his job. Finally, they admitted to him that if he was female, no one would even bat an eyelash at his requests. They just don’t expect that from a Dad.

]]> By: Brian http://www.momsrising.org/blog/the-father-absence-crisis-and-why-men-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-21570 Brian Fri, 04 Dec 2009 19:56:33 +0000 http://www.momsrising.org/blog/?p=3454#comment-21570 Thanks so much for this post. It raises some great questions, and undescores some of the things we have learned working with dads over the last few years. You make an ineresting point about the assumption we all make about family friendly policies being for moms and not dads. I would say, though, that, while men need to push the envelope and use the opportunities, there are real biases in many workplaces that do discourage men from effectively balancing their lives. www.strongfathersmaine.org http://www.facebook.com/pages/Strong-Fathers-Maine/108580838216 Thanks so much for this post. It raises some great questions, and undescores some of the things we have learned working with dads over the last few years.

You make an ineresting point about the assumption we all make about family friendly policies being for moms and not dads. I would say, though, that, while men need to push the envelope and use the opportunities, there are real biases in many workplaces that do discourage men from effectively balancing their lives.
http://www.strongfathersmaine.org
http://www.facebook.com/pages/Strong-Fathers-Maine/108580838216

]]> By: Working Dad http://www.momsrising.org/blog/the-father-absence-crisis-and-why-men-matter/comment-page-1/#comment-21554 Working Dad Fri, 04 Dec 2009 18:03:13 +0000 http://www.momsrising.org/blog/?p=3454#comment-21554 Sharon, Great story. Dads often parent differently than moms, but it's still effective. Sharon, Great story. Dads often parent differently than moms, but it’s still effective.

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