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Reflections on being an at-home dad

July 10, 2013
Today's the last day of my paternity leave, so I wanted to reflect a bit on the experience. When I tell people I'm on a 4-month leave, the initial response is typically surprise that my company offers such a generous benefit. Facebook's paternity leave policy is unusual, but I hope it becomes less so. It's good for gender equality in the workplace and it's good for families with fathers. That's typically followed by surprise that I'm actually taking it -- why would I want to subject myself to that torture (from parents), why would I want to sit around and do nothing for 4 months (from non-...
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Member Voices: Sexism's stamina is actually not so puzzling.

June 25, 2013
Ed.: MomsRising member and blogger Dasa Kelly responds to a recent op/ed in the New York Times about the stamina of sexism in our culture. Oh, where to begin. What this , Sheryl Sandberg’s book, Anne Marie Slaughter’s Atlantic piece , and others fail to mention in the ongoing debate on women in the workforce and - more broadly, what these trends say about sexism in our society - is how women get to Congress or the boardroom in the first place. Where is talk of paid maternity leave , school schedules that are currently based on an agrarian calendar and that require $$ camps/$$aftercare/trying...
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The Downside for Dads

June 18, 2013
Co-written with Katherine Ullman. "My small contribution to feminism is leaving the office at 5:15 PM three times a week to pick up my daughter...and not hiding it." You might expect that these are the words of a working mother who, after too little sleep and too many people wondering "how she does it," decided to draw a line in the sand for all to see, with work firmly on one side and family on the other. But you'd be wrong--we heard this from a young professional father. And who could blame you for your guess? With all of this recent hullabaloo about female breadwinners (elegantly...
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Why is Pregnancy Still a Job-Buster in the 21st Century Workplace?

June 18, 2013
By Cortelyou Kenney , National Women's Law Center Cross-posted from NWLC's blog Thirty-five years ago the Pregnancy Discrimination Act outlawed discrimination against pregnant workers. But still today, pregnant women across the country are being fired from their jobs, forced onto unpaid leave, or made to quit when they need temporary accommodations like staying off high ladders or refraining from heavy lifting. Many women can work throughout their pregnancies without any changes to their jobs. But for some pregnant workers – particularly those in low-wage and physically demanding jobs –...
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Fathers have become unicorns

June 12, 2013
Fatherhood is a lifestyle. Fatherhood should not just something that you get to do after work, on the weekends or when you are allowed to by the courts or the mother. Fathers live for the betterment of the lives of their children. It is very disturbing that we live in a society that has bestowed the title of ‘father’ so haphazardly within our society on generally self-centered men. Self-centered men are daddies. Family-centered men are fathers. The two terms embody two different ideals, actions and mindsets. Yet, in our society, daddies and fathers have become interchangeable. So in a society...
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Fathers on Family Leave: A MomsRising Blog Carnival

June 12, 2013
Father's Day is a great time to reflect on the joys, struggles, challenges and epiphanies that come with fatherhood. I'm honored to introduce this MomsRising.org Blog Carnival that focuses on the early days of fatherhood - Fathers on Family Leave, with revealing stories from dads about their introduction to fatherhood. Like me, there are other fathers for whom the arrival of their children was revelation to the important demands of child care. However, I had the privilege of paid family leave - a privilege that seems to bestowed by chance in this country. Based on data the Bureau of Labor...
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Investing in families pays off

June 12, 2013
The birth of my daughter came just about 1 year after starting a new job in the non-profit sector. I was fortunate in that the organization I work for is run by warm and kind people who appreciate and value the staff. Our staff of seven people were also fairly young on average when I started, and so the arrival of my child would be the first one of anyone on staff at the time. Luckily, the organization had and maintains a clear parental leave policy, a policy that I've found is much better than most similar sized organizations. I was able to spend the first three weeks of my daughter's life...
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Family leave and self-employment

June 12, 2013
I just watched my three year old “graduate” from her first year of preschool. It was a cute ceremony, and the room was filled with parents that sat in long rows with their cameras trained on the kids up front. But it's also 11am on a Friday, and that means I was one of the only dads in the room. There were several moms who couldn’t make it, too. Most parents have to do what their jobs demand. But seven years ago my wife and I began to arrange our careers in a way that would let us both be present for the important moments in our (future) kids lives. When we decided to start our photography...
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Real Nurturing Leave

June 12, 2013
When my partner and I were graced with the news that we were expecting our first child, I was in my fifth year of service as an assistant professor in a research university. Tenure reviews are generally scheduled for the sixth year of service. Thus, in the academic profession, this is the crucial time when a scholar is expected to “publish or perish.” Usually connoting lifetime job security and academic freedom, tenure is one of the great blessings a college or university can award a professor. Conversely, however, being denied tenure (and thus losing one's job) can act as a major setback to...
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An Organizing Dad

June 12, 2013
I’m a Dad. Even three years and two kids later, defining myself in that way still seems somewhat surreal. I’m also a Community Organizer. I have been for 13 years... and believe me that’s often very surreal as well. You see, the life of an Organizer isn’t like most. You are seen as a community resource, on call 24-7, traveling to and fro, reacting to the latest news, rallying the tired masses, dealing with setbacks, navigating the highs and lows, so on and so forth. Hmm, wait that’s sort of like being a ... Dad! As I think about this Father’s Day, the fact is that my life as a working,...
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