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Real Nurturing Leave

June 12, 2013
When my partner and I were graced with the news that we were expecting our first child, I was in my fifth year of service as an assistant professor in a research university. Tenure reviews are generally scheduled for the sixth year of service. Thus, in the academic profession, this is the crucial time when a scholar is expected to “publish or perish.” Usually connoting lifetime job security and academic freedom, tenure is one of the great blessings a college or university can award a professor. Conversely, however, being denied tenure (and thus losing one's job) can act as a major setback to...
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An Organizing Dad

June 12, 2013
I’m a Dad. Even three years and two kids later, defining myself in that way still seems somewhat surreal. I’m also a Community Organizer. I have been for 13 years... and believe me that’s often very surreal as well. You see, the life of an Organizer isn’t like most. You are seen as a community resource, on call 24-7, traveling to and fro, reacting to the latest news, rallying the tired masses, dealing with setbacks, navigating the highs and lows, so on and so forth. Hmm, wait that’s sort of like being a ... Dad! As I think about this Father’s Day, the fact is that my life as a working,...
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The Evolving Role of Men Regarding Work and Family Leave

June 12, 2013
In addition to the individual stories being shared for the Father’s Day blog festival for MomsRising.org, I wanted to provide an overall discussion of the rapidly changing role of men in this discussion around a workplace supportive of employees and their family responsibilities. Often when there is excellent discourse around the role of working mothers in the workplace and the ways that corporations can fully support this segment of the work force, so often the men who are also now taking an increasing role in family life are forgotten. As a long time diversity professional and consultant, I...
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Unanticipated rewards

June 12, 2013
Here’s a quiz: see if you can figure out what kind of dad I am. If you ask them, my children may very well tell you I am their “fake daddy”. My children are not biologically related to me, don’t share my last name, and they all don’t even currently live with me. But I can assure you, I’m a real dad when it counts: like at 3am when you’ve had a bad dream, when you skin your knee riding your bike, or when your real parents are having a bit of a problem. Time’s up. Final answer? I am a foster dad. While our family was not created in the traditional way, my wife and I decided that we wanted to...
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Marvin, Tammi, Misha and Daddy

June 12, 2013
When my wife and I adopted Misha Gabrielle, our oldest daughter was a two-week old infant in the late summer of 1998, the last thing we had thought about was my paternity leave. My wife was working at a relatively progressive college, and she was able to take eight weeks off before returning to work as an administrator. It had never occurred to me to ask for such a leave at my own institution—not nearly as progressive—and among a decidedly older generation of colleagues for which men asking for such leaves was unfathomable. As an academic though, I also knew that I had the kind of flexibility...
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Supporting LGBT Workers and Their Families in Times of Need

June 12, 2013
Every day, LGBT Americans face unexpected emergencies or life events requiring their care and attention—a worker comes down with the flu, a child is born, an adoption is finalized, a sick child is sent home from school, an elderly loved one is hospitalized. Many LGBT workers learn at these critical moments that their employers provide little or no time off and fail to recognize their families. This lack of support and recognition can have devastating consequences for LGBT working families. Due to high rates of poverty and health disparities in the LGBT community, LGBT workers urgently need...
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Priorities? America's Family Values

June 12, 2013
The day remains one of the most vibrant memories of my life. After months of preparation and a day at the hospital, our first child was born. Floating on cloud 9, and focused on taking care of what needed to be done in anticipation of her coming home, I quickly turned my attention back to work. It was spring break at my university so those in those first few days I wasn’t pulled in different directions. That would end before she even turned 10 days old. I never thought about taking a break from work. That would be unfair to my students, my colleagues, and to all the deadlines in front of me...
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It Takes Time

June 12, 2013
I woke up with a startle. It was 1:30 AM and my wife was telling me we needed to go. It was time to have the baby. Luckily, our “nesting phase” had kicked in the previous weekend so we were already packed in anticipation of the big day. Luggage full of extra clothes, baby outfits, books, snacks, and electronics were already set up and waiting neatly by the door. We woke up her son, gathered our bags, and rushed out the door in the calmest way possible. We weren’t worried about missing work or not having income to pay the bills. That was taken care of ahead of time. When we arrived at the...
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Odd Man Out. Why isn’t anyone else taking paternity leave?

June 12, 2013
Something strange happens when I wear the baby. I slip into a black carrier, strap the baby in, make sure she’s snug, put a hat over her tiny head, then head out. A woman with a baby on her hip? So common most people wouldn’t notice. But a man, by himself, with a baby on his chest, bobbing and bouncing with every step? Before I might have been invisible to the world. Now people look twice. Tough guys on the corner smirk, sometimes laugh. Ladies behind the donut counter wave. Security guards soften their glare and grin. Pretty women stop to talk. Old men smile. When I wear the baby strangers...
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Happy 50th Birthday, Equal Pay Act!

June 10, 2013
By Lenora M. Lapidus, Women's Rights Project, ACLU Today is the 50th anniversary of the Equal Pay Act . On June 10, 1963, Congress enacted the first law to require employers to pay women the same salaries that they pay men. When the law was enacted, I was not quite one month old. Equal Pay Today! My mother fought for passage of the EPA. She brought me, her newborn baby, to a march on Washington to demand equal pay for women. My childhood was permeated with debates about "Women's Lib." Although she, like my father, was a university professor, prior to passage of the EPA, Columbia University...
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